Not everyone is perfect we are human, but do you have to be such a bitch?

In the last five years I have noticed how bad the vibes are getting at shows, there is so much attitude and people thinking they are ‘better than’ others. We are all there for the same reason to hear some great music, see some amazing bands, and feel like we belong somewhere when we don’t feel accepted anywhere else in the world. But how is that possible when people are just constantly judging each other and giving dirty looks across the room. There used to be a mutual respect at shows between people understanding ‘Hey, you’re here to see this band and you actually care, you’re cool.’ But this theory has gone out the window completely. When you walk into a venue now its dirty looks followed by complete judgment of what you look like, what brand you’re wearing, what color your hair is, and how many gauges you have in your face. The girls seem to be the worst at this, not saying you boys are completely off the hook, but I will get to that later. Many younger girls have made the underage venues their local hangout to go and look ‘cool’. They really don’t care about the music or the bands playing besides the lead singers who they want to rip their clothes off and ‘make their babies’. They believe by coming to the venue in a pair of super tight ripped up skinny jeans, a band shirt, and fake piercings that the boys there will notice them and want to hook up with them. It’s turned into an animal pit instead of a mosh pit a.k.a who can get to the piece of meat the fastest? Another thing I have noticed among the girls at shows is just the pure cattiness and bitterness between them if it’s not giving dirty looks its rudely bumping into them and then walking away talking badly about them. Girls we are all human beings we don’t need to degrade each other to make yourself look better. Now boys you thought you were off the hook didn’t you? Pardon my French but the ‘hardcore’ boys in the pit have become complete DOUCHEBAGS! There used to be generally known rules of the pit; 1.) If someone falls pick them up 2.) Anyone can try in the pit just give them a chance, if they suck then you can kick them out 3.) If you hit someone in the face you turn around and apologize and make sure they are okay 4.) IF YOU’RE A BOY YOU DO NOT HIT THE GIRLS 5.) If someone looses a personal belonging you hold it up in the air till they come get it from you 6.) Everyone is there for a good time not to kick each other’s ass. Apparently I missed the memo when these rules were no longer applied in the pits. I see and have experienced so many boys just going to town hitting girls in the face and beating the living day lights out of them. I have had a boy hit me in the gut so hard that he knocked me out and knocked the breath out of me and I was out the rest of the show, how is that fair? Also we always used to pick someone up if they fell in the pit now they just trample over them severely hurting the person on the ground who is now helpless. Another thing I have noticed is during the two steps and the breakdowns while people are doing their donkey kicks and windmills they hit someone and we used to just turn around and say ‘sorry bro are you okay?’ Now people start throwing punches at each other’s face. Weren’t you guys just doing the same exact thing? Now you want to beat the crap out of someone else? I am not trying to rag on anyone in particular I just miss the days you could go into a show talk to the people standing around you and make friends. When you could walk into a venue and take a deep breath of sweaty heavy music filled air and be like ‘I’m home’. It’s time to as A Day To Remember would say set your egos aside and get the fuck over it. The next time you’re in the pit or in a venue and you feel yourself ready to give a dirty look or punch someone in the face take a second and realize this person is there for the same reason as you, to have a good time and listen to some really great music. Keep our music scene alive, don’t kill it with hate.